By House of Peregrine in Guides — 05 Aug 2025

A Reflective Guide for Couples in Transition

Exploring Identity, Intimacy & Growth - With or Without Psychedelics

An Invitation

To live abroad is to stretch - geographically, emotionally, and relationally. Crossing borders doesn’t just shift our surroundings; it invites us to reimagine who we are, how we love, and what we long for.

Whether this new chapter has brought you closer together, stirred dormant questions, or uncovered new layers of complexity, you are not alone.

This guide is a companion for couples navigating the quiet, often unspoken transitions that accompany international life. Whether or not you are exploring psychedelic-assisted therapy, these reflections are designed to open conversation, deepen connection, and offer clarity in seasons of change.

You do not need to be in crisis to go deeper. You only need to be curious.

✨ Reflective Prompts for Couples

These questions are invitations, not tasks. Let them guide you gently. Use them to spark dialogue, introspection, or quiet presence with one another.

🧭 1. Mapping the Move: The Impact of Living Abroad

What part of me shifted most profoundly since we moved abroad?
What aspects of my former life do I long for—and what no longer fits?
How have our roles evolved in this new environment?
Which parts of our relationship feel more delicate now? Which feel unexpectedly strong?

🪞2. Inner Landscapes: Self-Awareness and Emotional Maturity

What patterns do I notice myself repeating that no longer serve us?
Where do my emotional responses feel disproportionate—and what might they be protecting?
What part of myself do I withhold from you, and what keeps it hidden?
What does emotional safety mean to me now, and how do we cultivate it?

🔮 3. The Psychedelic Path: Curiosity, Readiness & Intention

If I could ask one question of my deepest inner knowing, what would it be?
What am I most seeking to understand about myself—or us—at this stage in life?
Where do I feel resistance or apprehension around altered states of consciousness? Where do I feel wonder?
How do I imagine this type of experience might shift the way we relate to one another?

🕊 4. Relational Growth: Love, Repair & Imagination

What values do I want to shape our relationship in this next season?
What do I need from you now that I haven’t yet voiced?
If we could reimagine our relationship five years from now—vibrant, aligned, and alive—what would it look and feel like?
What would it mean to “grow apart with love,” should that be part of our journey?

🌱 5. Integration: Making Meaning After a Transformational Experience

What insight has stayed with me most vividly from our shared (or individual) experience?
In what subtle or significant ways have I changed?
What new possibilities have emerged between us?
How can we protect and nurture the sacredness of this transformation in our daily life?

🗝 How to Use This Guide

Choose 1–3 prompts at a time to explore, either individually or together.
Create a spacious, intentional setting—a quiet morning, a long walk, a shared glass of wine.
Be present. Listen without interruption. Let your partner’s truth stand on its own.
Return to these reflections over time. Growth is rarely linear; neither is love.

A Farewell, and a Beginning

Transitions of this magnitude - whether sparked by a move, a milestone, or a moment of awakening - invite us to become more of who we are. They call us to listen more deeply, speak more truthfully, and love more expansively.

This guide is not an endpoint. It is a doorway.

We invite you to stay in conversation. Speak with each other. Speak with those in your community who are also navigating the layered terrain of international life. And when it feels right, speak with the guides and therapists who hold space for the beauty and complexity of this kind of growth - with or without the aid of psychedelics.

Transformation is already underway. May you meet it with grace, honesty, and wonder.

To listen to the full episode with Jeanine Souren and Hans van Wechem from The Experiential Training Institute in Amsterdam, click here

This guide was created by House of Peregrine based on the conversation between Mickelle and Jeanine Souren and Hans van Wechem.

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